My Joy Luck Club

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Los Angeles, CA. Nov. 5, 2008. Photo call for East West Players production of Joy Luck Club, based on the bestselling book by Amy Tan at the David Henry Hwang Theatre on Nov. 5, 2008. (l to r) Emily Kuroda as An-Mei, Deborah Png(cq) as Ying Ying, Elaine Kao as Jin-Mei and Karen Huie as Lindo in a scene.
Los Angeles, CA. Nov. 5, 2008. Photo call for East West Players production of Joy Luck Club, based on the bestselling book by Amy Tan at the David Henry Hwang Theatre on Nov. 5, 2008. (l to r) Emily Kuroda as An-Mei, Deborah Png(cq) as Ying Ying, Elaine Kao as Jin-Mei and Karen Huie as Lindo in a scene.

Friends often ask me how I find the time to do all this…this referring to working full time, commuting, parenting two children, working on paintings, blogging, reading fiction at a rate of two or three books a month, cooking interesting food, remaining happily married.

To answer that, on the eve of my 34th birthday, I have to say that writing these posts is helping me string things together. It allows me to connect the mother, the artist, the woman, the worker bee, the reader, the Jesus-follower, the “someday” writer, and to check in to see if I still have a soul at the end of the day.

A recent lunchroom discussion led me to try to identify what must be left out in all this busyness. I think the number one thing that is neglected (after exercise) is relationship.

Ever since I read the Joy Luck Club a few years ago, I wished again that I had that close-knit group. Even if you haven’t read it, you know who I’m talking about – the friends of Friends, the women of Sex and the City, the pals of Seinfeld.

So as a sort of new year’s birthday resolution, I want to venture toward finding my Joy Luck Club. My tribe. My kindred spirits.

What will this look like? I don’t expect it will involve long formal games of mahjong, or meeting daily in a local cafe – not in this sprawling metropolis. It may look something like a book club, nothing to stringent, gathering every six-to-eight weeks. Taking turns picking the book, and if you haven’t read it yet, come and find out why you should. Or perhaps some of us will want to share writing, or we’ll have an art 101 night. Or games.

I’m looking forward to what this year holds, and look forward to deepening some friendships. Also looking forward to my first art exhibit, and growing other aspects of my life: becoming more thankful, more joyful, and writing more thought-provoking things.

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  1. Friends are so important, but I remember at 34 being so bogged down by everything you have mentioned above. Now, 10 yrs later, life is much different. Thats all I am giving you:))
    Where is your first exhibit? I just live up the road and spend lots of time in Vancouver.
    Julie (jules@bollah.com)

  2. Happy Birthday! and wishing you good luck and success in all your endeavours.
    Big love
    AJ

  3. I, myself have lately been wanting more of a grounding in my friendships and relationships. The busyness of life has a way of making one feel very displaced. I remember you mentioning the idea last year ago; I love that you’re making this a go!

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