Another preschool morning wraps up and my four-year-old daughter eagerly watches for her Daddy – yes, her Daddy – to pick her up. The other parents, mostly moms, chat in small groups, plan meet ups, and discuss next year’s Kindergarten plans. This time, a few of them decide to meet at a local park, and one calls over and invites my husband and kids to the park.
This is a first – after living in this city for a couple years with my husband as the stay-at-home Dad – this is one of the first play date invites he’s received. For some reason, there is a gender barrier between parents.
So the best Daddy in the whole world, as we often talk about my husband, packed a picnic lunch, water cups, sunglasses (he thinks of everything). And they had the best time at the park with the other families. My daughter was so proud to call me at work and tell me her friends invited her to the park!
For my practice of parenting post, I wanted to talk about how for our family, it has been working for our kids to have a mom who works full time outside the home. For us, it made sense for me to keep working and for my husband to take care of our kids during the days and squeeze in his work as a professional photographer where he can.
Iâ€™m so thankful that our kids have one of their parents with them all the time. I know Godâ€™s hand was in it. It wasnâ€™t only that I had a more secure career, but my husband possesses amazing parenting skills. I’ve heard others complain that men just arenâ€™t cut out for all the details of being the primary caregiver/houseminder, but I have to say they havenâ€™t met my husband. He really does a great job. He is gentle, patient, consistent, and fun.
Lots of people ask me how I feel about leaving my kids every day. Don’t I wish I could stay home? Shouldn’t a mom of faith be the one at home? I find myself trying to navigate these questions. Did I have a choice? Honestly, I wish I could have about one day more per week at home, but otherwise Iâ€™m quite happy with my work and the peace I have knowing my husband is home. It took us a while to get to this stage, of accepting that my husband’s role as the main caregiver is how it’s going to be for the next couple years. But now we’re pretty content.
I treasure every hour I spend with the kids in the morning and after work, and on the weekends. I love spending that time doing crafts or getting into nature with the family. A quick browse through the Parenting category of my blog will give you an idea of the fun we’ve had making things and in nature this year.
So if I can share one desire, it is to have other parents be more intentional about inviting Dads along. Our kids would love to play with your kids, even though mom’s at work today…and every weekday. So to any moms reading, befriend a stay-at-home Dad today.